I work with teenagers who
run. They run away from home because of abuse, violence, addiction problems,
and an assortment of other issues. A rather common mistaken belief is that they
are running away to have a good time, and/or don’t want to follow rules.
However, in reality they are usually running from a negative, hurtful family
situation. For the youth with whom I work, many of them believe that their only
chance to survive is to run away. They are not mature enough or streetwise
enough to realize that the street may be no safer than the home that they are
fleeing. Many, if they paused to think through their decision, would still run
believing that life on the street would give them more control over their
lives. But in reality, once they hit the street often they find themselves
trapped in dangerous circumstances and may get manipulated into prostitution, drug
dealing or thievery.
I receive calls from Social Service
Workers asking me if I can work with teens who have been found and returned
home or placed in foster care or a group home and they say to me, “She / He is
a runner.” Often there is a belief that if the child or youth ran, that they
need to be pulled in. They need discipline, structure, and need to learn respect.
Tamed.
Yes, I agree we all need some
of that. However, after doing trauma work for many years I respect that
somatically these kids knew that running was what was needed. There is strength
and courage in running. Running sometimes is the only sane action one can take.
The problem is not the running; the problem is what they are running from and where
they are running to and often is not to safety.
After they are picked up by
the police and placed in a foster or group home they now have a new trauma to
deal with. By the time I see them, they are often angry, confused and no longer
willing to trust anyone. Now instead of being free they are trapped in a new situation
where they have less freedom, less control and power. But their bodies remember
the high of running. They remember the state of euphoria of getting out of a
dangerous situation combined with the environmental stimuli and the biological
aspects of stress of the escape. Endorphin levels are raised when running under
stress and this creates the runners high. Moods are elevated and pain
decreases.
Human beings have always ran.
We ran to hunt and to survive being hunted. When in danger the muscles, viscera
and nervous system are all preparing us for escape. This urge to run is
experienced as the feeling of danger. Anxiety actually occurs when our flight
from danger is somehow thwarted or aborted, so we don’t get to complete our
response to it. We experience trauma when we feel trapped and can’t flee. Without
active defense responses, we are unable to deal effectively with danger, and so
we become anxious and go into freeze. Freeze becomes trauma.
I am a runner. I run for
exercise and sanity. When I run I feel strong, free and happy. When I was
younger if I had have been wise enough, brave enough or empowered enough to
run, I would have. When I work with youth who run, it’s not the running that I
want to stop, but the direction that they are running in. I want to help them
to learn how to run to safety and support. I want them to run into empowerment,
self-worth and self-love. Their instinctual bodily wisdom to run away was right.
What was not right were the reasons they ran in the first place.
Art Therapy Exercise for
Running
Many of the young boys I work
with have ADHD. They have a hard time sitting still and waiting for recess or
lunch. Their bodies need to move. When they can’t physically move, I tell them
to close their eyes and imagine that they are on a beach or a wide open field
and they are running as fast and as hard as they can. In this way, their bodies
get some internal sense of movement and their minds relax. This art therapy
exercise is to use when you want to run or walk but can’t.
Gather some art supplies.
Start by getting comfortable, feeling grounded in your chair and noticing your
feet and legs. Take a minute to notice your feet. Take some time to relax your
feet and let them make contact with the floor. Press your heals into the floor,
then the toes. Gently press both sides of your feet into the floor. Now rock
back and forth on your toes to your heals. Notice if you sense any colour in
your feet. Now shift your attention to the chair under your legs and buttocks
and adjust yourself to get even more comfortable in your chair. Take a deep
breath into your stomach. How is your stomach? Do you sense any emotion here?
Bring awareness to your back. What are you noticing here? Is your back tense or
feeling relaxed? Now move to your chest.
Can you breathe freely? Is your chest open or closed? Notice if your chest is
constricted, expanded, or in some other state. Now move your awareness to your
hands and arms. Notice if there is any tension and gently release it. Take time
to sense into your hands, stretching the fingers. If your hands could be
anywhere in nature, where would they want to be? What would they be touching? Now, bring
awareness to your neck, then your head. Release any tension in your jaw and
neck area. Now gently turn inward, sensing into your inner throat, chest and
then resting in the belly area.
Now imagine the perfect place
to run. Take time to notice the scenery, smells, hear the sounds. Notice the
temperature and feel the air on your skin. Start running in your mind and stay
present in your legs and feet as you effortlessly move. Notice the changing
scenery and feel the different parts of your body responding to the running.
Feel your arms swaying, and bring awareness to your chest. Now, when you are
ready bring your hand to the paper in front of you and continue to run on the
paper. Move your hand in rhythm with your moving body. Reflect the movement and
feel of the run.
I just love your posts! So much good information. Thank you for taking the time to get it all down and sharing. Sounds like the running imagery would be a neat form of active meditation (if you will). I just read in a book how imagining actions of the body actually help tone the physical muscles to some degree. Added bonus!
ReplyDeleteThe first part of the post? About running? If I hear someone has run, I am secretly grateful for them as I dealt with some major traumatic events when I was younger and there was no running. I was worn down and made to feel helpless, therefore I froze.
I am so glad you are there as a resource for troubled teens and am so very happy that you embrace their response no matter what it is and see the healthy part of it, therefore directing the response toward healthier things.
You are a blessing Karen. Truly.
Again I thank you, Karen, for all you do. Your posts are inspiring and thought provoking. Enjoy your runs.
ReplyDeleteThank you both. Hugs
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing the work you do here Karen. It is wonderful that you are working with troubled teens and helping them to run TOWARD safer places and behavior, rather than stopping them from running at all. It does seem their survival instincts are intact, though their emotional intelligence and decision making skills are still growing. Thankfully you are helping them in these areas with your wonderful therapeutic skills and exercises!
ReplyDeleteKaren thank you for a remarkable piece. I am touched by how gently you reframe the purpose of running and how powerful your statement 'When I work with youth who run, it’s not the running that I want to stop, but the direction that they are running in. I want to help them to learn how to run to safety and support. I want them to run into empowerment, self-worth and self-love.' is. You celebrate the wonder of each person and see the strength in their decision making and offer compassion, space and a regard for their truth as a means of supporting them consider future choices. I imagine there are many kids who have been touched by your kindness and for that I thank you.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the great encouraging comments!!!!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post, as always. :)
ReplyDeleteI am also a running, for physical exercise, sanity, and happiness. It makes me feel so happy and healthy.
I saw a movie once that had runners in it, who took along their cameras. Sometimes I want to do this ... just because ... your mind is so alive, and the sky is so beautiful, and the road is your own.
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Running is one of the finest ways to get fitness. We should do this physical activity regularly to keep our body smart and healthy.
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